The Difference Between Lonliness and Being Alone- with commentary by yogapunguin

I live most of my life alone. I enjoy it. I do what I what, when I want and how I want. Most importantly I don't do what I don't want.

I watch a TV show or see a reference in the media to people eating alone in restaurants and other activities and these people are always portrayed as lonely, pitiful individuals craving something more. I frankly do not understand the concept. I have no problem doing anything that I want to do.

I always said that I didn't want children. I hear the media commenting about views like this as something new. Most of the girls I was close friends growing up with do not have children and the ones that do were mostly accidents. We all enjoy children as long as we can give them back when we are finished enjoying them. We have all the love and none of the responsibility which is the best of both worlds as far as I'm concerned.

I listen to my friends complain endlessly about their husbands and children and they never do anything about changing the situation. Of course they also say they love them and wouldn't take anything for them too. Personally I was happily married and I hated to see my marriage end. I don't remember complaining about my husband while married either, but then again we were also best friends.

People think I should be lonely but I'm not. On the rare occasions that I do feel a pang of loneliness I just get out of the house and go see someone that I would like to see. I feel kind of guilty that I don't feel lonely but I certainly am not feeling guilty enough to do anything about it.

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delete reply yogapunguin wrote on Jul 12, '10 Hmmm... you just helped me create a definition for "bad relationship." Bad relationship - the state wherein you are never alone but always lonely.

The Picture of Easter Greed

ONE YEAR AFTER EASTER MY BOSS, JOHN, GAVE ME ALL OF THE LEFTOVER EASTER CANDY. I DON'T MEAN HE GAVE ME A FEW CHOCOLATE BUNNIES AND A COUPLE OF EGGS; HE GAVE ME AT LEAST A COUPLE HUNDRED DOLLARS WORTH OF CANDY.

I IMMEDIATELY SET OFF FOR LOGAN AND SET UP THE CANDY BUFFET AT SIS' HOUSE. SHE HAS A HUGE DINING ROOM TABLE AND THE CANDY FILLED IT UP FROM ONE END TO THE OTHER. IT WAS PILED ABOUT A FOOT DEEP! I CALLED MY NIECE AND NEPHEW OVER TO SURPRISE THEM.

WHEN THEY SAW ALL THAT CANDY THEY NEARLY FELL OVER WITH EXCITEMENT. AUNT PAM WAS THE QUEEN OF THE WORLD TO THEM THAT DAY! I GAVE EACH OF THEM A GROCERY BAG AND TOLD THEM TO FILL IT UP. THEY DOVE RIGHT IN.

AFTER THEY FILLED THEIR BAGS, MY NEPHEW, ARNY ASKED ME IF HE COULD HAVE A BAG OF CANDY FOR HIS FRIEND, TYLER. I TOLD HIM OF COURSE HE COULD. WHEN BECCA SAW HIM GETTING A SECOND BAG (AND I CAN GUARANTEE YOU HE WAS GOING TO SHARE IT - THAT'S THE KIND OF KID HE WAS) SHE WENT NUTS.

SHE WANTED ANOTHER BAG OF CANDY. I REALLY DIDN'T CARE, SO I TOLD HER TO GO AHEAD AND HELP HERSELF. I CAN GUARANTEE YOU THAT SHE HAD NO INTENTION OF SHARING THAT CANDY EITHER . (THAT'S THE KIND OF KID SHE WAS TOO) AFTER SHE FILLED THE SECOND BAG, SHE ACTUALLY STOOD THERE CRYING AND WAILING THAT SHE NEEDED ANOTHER BAG TO GIVE TO HER FRIENDS.

I WATCHED HER STANDING THERE HOLDING TWO GIANT BAGS OF CANDY AT HER SIDES COMPLETELY FREAKING OUT. I REALLY HAD NOTHING TO LOSE SO I TOLD HER TO GET A THIRD BAG FOR HER FRIENDS. SHE DID. I KNOW THAT NOBODY BUT HER EVER SAW A MORSEL OF THAT CANDY EITHER. BUT I AM HER AUNT, NOT HER MOTHER, I COULD INDULGE HER ALL THAT I WANTED.

IT WAS HILARIOUS

I used Skype for the first time last night

I spoke to my 6 year old great niece, Kendall, for the first time ever. It was really special. She is really curious about my side of the family since she doesn't see anyone. She lives in Florida and most of the rest of us live in West Virginia.

I was basically a stranger to her even though I send her Christmas and Birthday presents and little stories along the way. Now she can put a face with the name Auntie Pam.

We will be speaking more often now that I know how to do it. She was really excited to see that the only picture I have in my living room is one of her in her confirmation dress. She is beautiful just like her mommy and grandmother.

She also loved bragging that she was the tallest girl in her class just like her mommy was.

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Here's a link to the new baby eagle webcam in Shepherdstown, WV. I have been watching them for the past two years. The first year I saw the baby take it's first flight. Last year the baby died.

I believe 2 were born this year.

Things I Meant to Do Before I died but it's too late now.

1. Number one has been deleted. Apparently I have done that one according to my ex husband - it's too bad I don't remember it!!!!

2. Ski, Parachute, bungie jump(all that good adrenaline pumping stuff!) I did go parasailing once. It was completely blogworthy and there is a post about it somewhere.

3. Ride in the Kentucky Derby (I was too big to do that by the time I was 12 but I always dreamed about it)

4. Own a Gutenberg Bible (The crown jewel for any book collector)

5. Win an Olympic medal (We grew up having Olympics in our backyard between Monopoly games!)

6. Be a psychic (That would be too cool)

7. Go on a road trip across America to every hoakie tourist destination that you can think of(from the petrified forest to Mount Rushmore)

8. Own a boat car (I saw one drive into Summersville Lake when I was a kid. It left a lasting impression.)

9. Have my house on top of a mountain and one on the beach and a helicopter to fly between them.

11. Roller Derby and Professional Football Player (I am sooo glad they brought back roller derby and started Women's Pro Football leagues.) My niece does roller derby!

12. Go on Survivor

13. Own a horse - Have a whole zoo for that matter!

14. GO TO MARDI GRAS !!!!!!!

What I did do was become a professional greyhound trainer which satisfied most of those needs and marry a man who had the same motto that I did. "Have Fun No Matter What!!!!

I went to another railroad show today

I love these things. I have been to the Kanawha Valley Model Railroad Museum several times a year for the past few years. It fascinates me. I have seen a big railroad show advertised every year but I was either too late or had to work so I kept missing it. Today I saw an ad for "The Collis P. Huntington Railroad Club" in Dunbar and there was only a couple of hours to go before it closed. So I went.

I loved it. The way these people recreate a whole world around a train is really cool. I have videos in my video section from the Kanawha Valley Railroad Club which I also posted on you tube. I took videos today and will upload them as soon as I figure out how to do it. It is the first time I have used the camera that my uncle loaned me.

Seems he and my aunt get a tickle out of some of my stuff and he told me to "have at it."

One of the displays today recreated a carnival/circus. It was really cool and I can't wait to put the video online. I spoke with the woman he made it and it is truly a passion for these people and you can tell it in their work. If I had some cash I would do it myself. It has to be an expensive hobby.

The Greatest April Fool's Day Joke Ever...

...was perpetrated by my brother and his wife. That is to say it is the day they eloped! When they got back and told everybody they got married, nobody believed them. We all thought it was an April Fool's Day joke. Not to mention the fact that April Fool's Day is the absolute most appropriate day for a wedding anniversary.

Now that Lisa has passed I'm wondering if her kids know this little story about the day they were married. They may know but since I'm not sure, I'll go ahead and tell the story for them.

Lisa was working at the Dairy Delight after school when Billy pulled up in his Blackbird (a Smokey and the Bandit Trans Am that my nephew has now inherited). The whole back of the car was filled with balloons. She was surprised to see him because they had been arguing and she thought they had actually broken up.

She was even more surprised when he walked up and said, "Let's get married!" It was the last thing in the world she expected to hear from him. But she said, "yes, " and got into the car and they took off for Virginia and got married.

When they came back home and started to tell family and friends everybody thought it was an April Fool's Day joke and nobody believed them. Lisa was wildly in love with Billy and he with her and they were more than ready to get out of the house and start their lives together. And they did.