We went to my parent's house and my new in-law's house. The part I
really remember was at my in-laws home. I had a most excellent
mother-in-law. We grew to be great friends over time but when I was
first married, she had major issues with the fact that I refused to wait
on my husband hand and foot. Don't get me wrong I didn't mind doing
things for him, but what I did mind was someone thinking that I should
cater to his every whim just because he was a man and I was a woman.
wanted no help in the kitchen. She had her own way of doing things. I
respected that. So the whole family was gathered throughout the house
doing whatever until dinner was ready. It was really very nice not to
have to worry about helping to prepare the meal - I was used to helping
my mom and it wouldn't have been a problem to help my mother-in-law if
she had wanted the help.
It came time to eat and she called
everyone to the kitchen. It was buffet style. I jumped right in and
fixed myself a plate of food and as I was walking away she yelled,
"Bobby, come and eat, Pam has your plate ready!"
I just looked at her and smiled and said, "this is my plate, I have no idea what he wants to eat!"
I took my plate and when Bobby had his plate ready he joined me.
Thankfully she didn't make an issue of it and neither did I so it was a
great Thanksgiving. Bobby and I laughed together many times about it
over the years and she was eventually able to have a little giggle about
it herself once she started to come to my home to eat Thanksgiving
I remember how pleased she was that I was able to even
cook such a meal. "I didn't know you had it in you, girl." she smiled
at me. I did however let her fix whatever she wanted in my kitchen.
The more the merrier was my philosophy and it still is.